I think I said i'd blog about somthing else today, but changed my mind.
What place do men have in decision making in a Female led Cohousing Community?
Been thinking over the last day over a comment regarding my ideas on the popular FLR lifestyle site 'She Makes The Rules'. A person who lives in a cohousing community touted the merits of a cohousing community. However, he also offered a view that a Female led cohousing system may not work, for example...what if we end up with a lot of strong Women all wanting to lead, what if one woman jostles for power....how would it work if there was too much of a 'They're only the men, we'll do as we please' culture...He thought that men as part of the community need to be part of the decision making process, even if it was a female led community....They are very valid points which could end up being a major sticking point and point of conflict...How would this be overcome?
These are things that could take months of discussion to work out.
What if it's a non-starter??? for now, or always?
At the very least, it would be good to end up with a valuable, local support network for couples in a Female Led relationships in the Melbourne area... Something that may morph into a social group that meets at persons' houses, and maybe enjoy a camping trip or something together each year... A Female led marriage can be challenging and exciting, and i know i'd love to meet and socialise with like minded couples...
Maybe a long-term aim would be move into cohousing, or, at least, to explore the options that may be available to those who are interested...Most important thing is to start a network of some kind, be it in person, or online...
More tomorrow...
The reason you have so few hits is that this sort of "Utopia" would not work. If history has taught us anything it's that BALANCE is the key to success. Perhaps in a Patriarchy there is too much testosterone but doing the extreme opposite is not the answer. Is the answer to the slavery of black people to create a community where whites are slaves? Your Matriarchy would be different but not better. It would still have to operate within the laws of the state or federal government. Men and women both have to learn to work together.
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